In Chapter 4, Obama argues that feeling different can create barriers to self-esteem or catalyze mental health conditions. She reflects on how she felt embarrassed by her height as a child and was frustrated by the lack of female athletic role models who could help her celebrate her physical strength.

Part 3, Chapter 8 Summary Obama reflects on the aspirational media coverage of wealthy, successful women who seem to perfectly balance their personal and professional lives. She claims that all successful people have to rely on help from others, and she credits many assistants for helping her thrive as First Lady.

Part 2, Chapter 5 Summary Obama shares that she takes her friendships seriously and ensures that she has regular meet-ups with her friends. She credits her friends with helping keep her life and emotions in balance, and she feels that reliable friendships make people happier and more successful.